Yes to sweatpants! Yes to BUCKETS of tea all winter!! I have never been a big leggings person because the cheap ones were too tight and pushed my leg hair the wrong way and didn’t have pockets, but this winter, I am a leggings person. I found them on Amazon (I know they’re evil and I hate it but I also love soft leggings with pockets that feel good for yoga and jogging and going to class and running errands and pretty much everything I do in my daily life) per the Wirecutter’s suggestion, and I love them. I think the brand is iuga. I wore them yesterday and I’m going to wear them today.
You were right. This was the post that said to me “you should pay this lovely person money for their awesome writing.” Thank you for what you put out into the world. It is deeply appreciated. I need to be especially kind to myself today, and this helps! ❤️
1. I started listening to Too Scary, Didn't Watch, maybe from a recommendation from you? Anyway, I listened to 1 episode - I think it was something like The Eyes of a Mother. I couldn't get through the whole thing, I was too scared just listening and now, weeks later, I can't stop thinking about it and feeling disturbed by it. Clearly scary movies are DEFINITELY not for me in any medium.
2. Years ago I emailed a Mad Men recap podcast about a fact they got wrong and they read my email on the next episode!! It was very exciting! (and I was nice about correcting them, I wasn't a jerk)
3. 2 weeks ago I emailed another podcast about the audio - when the host spoke with a guest he kind of got in conversation mode and his voice would drop and I would miss whole chunks of what he said because I couldn't hear him. He responded and was lovely. Thanked me for my feedback, said he's been working on it and asked if I had noticed it on newer episodes. Thanked me for listening. It was a pretty great experience, I'm sorry you didn't have the same. Maybe the scary movie ladies are busy hiding in a closet, scared of the most recent movie they watched, and didn't have a second to respond.
Love your posts. Are you in Chicago? My son just moved to Chicago and I'm in love with the city.
Some lovely winter wisdom. It was -35 Celcius here in NW Canada last week but a balmy -4C today. Yes a 30 degree temperature jump in 5 days. Beautifully told!
regarding your fan letter that you sent and didn't get a response, i will say this: i am a fan of your doing that! i am a fan of telling people you're a fan of that you're a fan of them, whether they respond or not, whether they see it or not!
BECAUSE
number one, they might write back which is cool.
number two, even if they don't they might appreciate it which is cool. (i know this because sometimes i text a friend a nice thing and they don't write back but then a year later they're like "i really liked that text you sent me a year ago" and i think that the stars are just like us, because a magazine told me and i agree.)
number three, even if they don't see it, other people might see it and the joy and gratitude and enthusiasm you have expressed will find a new home in the world and maybe ignite new sparks of joy and gratitude and enthusiasm.
number four, even if NO ONE ELSE SEES IT... YOU saw it. you did it. you made it happen. you are it. you are the joy gratitude enthusiasm fan change you want to see in the world, that you are in the world. in that moment, that is the world. you are that world.
so, this is all to say, i feel good about the fan letter you sent. and this is my fan letter to you, which i also feel good about. i am a fan!
thank you for doing what you do!
love
myq
PS it's true, "Humans ARE always forgetting that we are animals." (your words, my added emphasis.) thank you for the reminder!
All of this. So true and so joy affirming. Particularly:
"number four, even if NO ONE ELSE SEES IT... YOU saw it. you did it. you made it happen. you are it. you are the joy gratitude enthusiasm fan change you want to see in the world, that you are in the world. in that moment, that is the world. you are that world."
Myq I am new to this community and already I look forward to your wonderful comments so much. Thank you for adding to my enjoyment of Sophie’s sublime writings.
Hello to your plane self from my train self! And I think we’re converging on the same place- the PNW!
Trying to remember what I was replying to and forgetting but mainly:
1. Yes I continue to struggle not just with the media coverage of poly but the subsequent misunderstandings of family/close humans who now take that as my truth. Would very much be in a support group with you 🤗
2. Fan mail- one time, the first time ever writing a fan letter, I wrote to you! About how excited I was for your fiction book you were/are sneaking off to write and how I adore everything you write and will surely adore that. And…YOU WROTE BACK… and my little happy heart burst with a smile.
3. The term my humans use for me as a chosen family member for tinies is “Fiesta” I am, lovingly, “Fiesta Jana”
I am living a braless, sweatpants (if I make it out of PJs!), tea-filled existence - truly pretty much the high point of arm-cast life!
May I offer you the gift of the knowledge that in these parts the snow is usually on the ground from at least Dec-March (and some years you can add a month both sides of that) - Ottawa's poop piles are a thing of um....wonder? Thankfully out here in the countryside things aren't so bad!
May I also suggest: sweatshorts. I go back and forth between sweatpants and sweatshorts depending on my mood and how cold it actually is in the house, but the sweatshorts were a new discovery within the past 2 years and they have been truly life-changing. So cozy but not too hot. I wear them with a loose t-shirt, no bra, tucked in, and a pair of slippers, and this is my perfect house outfit.
I'm dating a new (and wonderful) guy and recently observed on his fridge multiple postcards addressed to Uncle Banana. This is what his niblings started calling him years ago when he did something funny with a banana, and then the name stuck. Despite not including his actual name, I find this uncle name so endearing and illustrative of a special, funny uncle-nibling relationship. So you could consider throwing out the Brenden part entirely and see what other words might stick!
Sophie, this post has spoken to me so much - I’m now adding a “prepare for winter” and saving this link to my August calendar! Softest sweatpants & fancy candles is exactly what would have made my Winter better ❤️
I love all of this!!
I was on a call with the QIA+ group at my work yesterday and we coined ‘Lego uncle’ as an equivalent of ‘wine aunt’ - which I think you might enjoy!
Yes to sweatpants! Yes to BUCKETS of tea all winter!! I have never been a big leggings person because the cheap ones were too tight and pushed my leg hair the wrong way and didn’t have pockets, but this winter, I am a leggings person. I found them on Amazon (I know they’re evil and I hate it but I also love soft leggings with pockets that feel good for yoga and jogging and going to class and running errands and pretty much everything I do in my daily life) per the Wirecutter’s suggestion, and I love them. I think the brand is iuga. I wore them yesterday and I’m going to wear them today.
You were right. This was the post that said to me “you should pay this lovely person money for their awesome writing.” Thank you for what you put out into the world. It is deeply appreciated. I need to be especially kind to myself today, and this helps! ❤️
1. I started listening to Too Scary, Didn't Watch, maybe from a recommendation from you? Anyway, I listened to 1 episode - I think it was something like The Eyes of a Mother. I couldn't get through the whole thing, I was too scared just listening and now, weeks later, I can't stop thinking about it and feeling disturbed by it. Clearly scary movies are DEFINITELY not for me in any medium.
2. Years ago I emailed a Mad Men recap podcast about a fact they got wrong and they read my email on the next episode!! It was very exciting! (and I was nice about correcting them, I wasn't a jerk)
3. 2 weeks ago I emailed another podcast about the audio - when the host spoke with a guest he kind of got in conversation mode and his voice would drop and I would miss whole chunks of what he said because I couldn't hear him. He responded and was lovely. Thanked me for my feedback, said he's been working on it and asked if I had noticed it on newer episodes. Thanked me for listening. It was a pretty great experience, I'm sorry you didn't have the same. Maybe the scary movie ladies are busy hiding in a closet, scared of the most recent movie they watched, and didn't have a second to respond.
Love your posts. Are you in Chicago? My son just moved to Chicago and I'm in love with the city.
Some lovely winter wisdom. It was -35 Celcius here in NW Canada last week but a balmy -4C today. Yes a 30 degree temperature jump in 5 days. Beautifully told!
"our Brendan"
dear sophie,
thank you for sharing this all!
regarding your fan letter that you sent and didn't get a response, i will say this: i am a fan of your doing that! i am a fan of telling people you're a fan of that you're a fan of them, whether they respond or not, whether they see it or not!
BECAUSE
number one, they might write back which is cool.
number two, even if they don't they might appreciate it which is cool. (i know this because sometimes i text a friend a nice thing and they don't write back but then a year later they're like "i really liked that text you sent me a year ago" and i think that the stars are just like us, because a magazine told me and i agree.)
number three, even if they don't see it, other people might see it and the joy and gratitude and enthusiasm you have expressed will find a new home in the world and maybe ignite new sparks of joy and gratitude and enthusiasm.
number four, even if NO ONE ELSE SEES IT... YOU saw it. you did it. you made it happen. you are it. you are the joy gratitude enthusiasm fan change you want to see in the world, that you are in the world. in that moment, that is the world. you are that world.
so, this is all to say, i feel good about the fan letter you sent. and this is my fan letter to you, which i also feel good about. i am a fan!
thank you for doing what you do!
love
myq
PS it's true, "Humans ARE always forgetting that we are animals." (your words, my added emphasis.) thank you for the reminder!
All of this. So true and so joy affirming. Particularly:
"number four, even if NO ONE ELSE SEES IT... YOU saw it. you did it. you made it happen. you are it. you are the joy gratitude enthusiasm fan change you want to see in the world, that you are in the world. in that moment, that is the world. you are that world."
Gah. I needed that. Thank you.
thank YOU! i appreciate your kind words!
Myq I am new to this community and already I look forward to your wonderful comments so much. Thank you for adding to my enjoyment of Sophie’s sublime writings.
Thank you for this! Sophie is wonderful and it’s such a warm, welcoming environment. Glad you are here!
Hello to your plane self from my train self! And I think we’re converging on the same place- the PNW!
Trying to remember what I was replying to and forgetting but mainly:
1. Yes I continue to struggle not just with the media coverage of poly but the subsequent misunderstandings of family/close humans who now take that as my truth. Would very much be in a support group with you 🤗
2. Fan mail- one time, the first time ever writing a fan letter, I wrote to you! About how excited I was for your fiction book you were/are sneaking off to write and how I adore everything you write and will surely adore that. And…YOU WROTE BACK… and my little happy heart burst with a smile.
3. The term my humans use for me as a chosen family member for tinies is “Fiesta” I am, lovingly, “Fiesta Jana”
Have the best sister time!
J
I am living a braless, sweatpants (if I make it out of PJs!), tea-filled existence - truly pretty much the high point of arm-cast life!
May I offer you the gift of the knowledge that in these parts the snow is usually on the ground from at least Dec-March (and some years you can add a month both sides of that) - Ottawa's poop piles are a thing of um....wonder? Thankfully out here in the countryside things aren't so bad!
Thank you for reminding me of velour! I used to love it so much as a child in the 70s and would love to bring it into my wardrobe again 💜
May I also suggest: sweatshorts. I go back and forth between sweatpants and sweatshorts depending on my mood and how cold it actually is in the house, but the sweatshorts were a new discovery within the past 2 years and they have been truly life-changing. So cozy but not too hot. I wear them with a loose t-shirt, no bra, tucked in, and a pair of slippers, and this is my perfect house outfit.
I'm dating a new (and wonderful) guy and recently observed on his fridge multiple postcards addressed to Uncle Banana. This is what his niblings started calling him years ago when he did something funny with a banana, and then the name stuck. Despite not including his actual name, I find this uncle name so endearing and illustrative of a special, funny uncle-nibling relationship. So you could consider throwing out the Brenden part entirely and see what other words might stick!
Sophie, this post has spoken to me so much - I’m now adding a “prepare for winter” and saving this link to my August calendar! Softest sweatpants & fancy candles is exactly what would have made my Winter better ❤️