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Brendan J's avatar

I'm in this photo and I really like it

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Connor Clark Lindh's avatar

Thank you for sharing this perspective and your own honest reflections. I wonder if part of what we are seeing is the transition from rejection to ubiquity of subcultures.

I imagine that up until recently the general social reaction to poly relationships was flat out rejection/disgust/wrong etc. Like with many social topics, it seems the next step towards acceptance is something like ambivalence: “sure that’s fine but who would bother with all the trouble?”. Then the final step would be ubiquity where people don’t even see it as a subculture but just part of normal life. So while frustrating to read about, this is maybe an optimistic sign that people are more accepting of this lifestyle/relationship choice.

I also need to be honest that I’ve been guilty of the “yah that’s fine but why bother with all the trouble?” response to things I’m not familiar with.

Recommend Steven Pinker’s “How the Mind Works”. The whole book is amazing but there are some excellent sections on relationships as well.

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